Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Thanks, But No Thanks, Pouring My Heart Out

Things I Can't Say

Today I am linking up with Shell at Things I Can't Say. Stop by and see where bloggers enjoy group therapy. I feel better already.

This is not a pity me post, let's get that out of the way. God has shown Himself strong in my life at this time. I have a joy right now that I can only be explained as God's grace. I haven't felt the need or want to verbally vomit my problems on my friends, I love them too much for that.

If you know me in person and you happen to know my current situation, I need to inform you that you are being a colossally rude when you invite me to your home party to buy books, jewelry, kitchen products, and candles or any other overpriced items.

I am going to assume it must have slipped your mind. You didn't remember. My husband is in the middle of a career change which involves no income for a few months, while dealing with major medical issues. You're asking me to leave him home alone with the kids for a night, so I can buy ridiculously expensive things. So in turn, you can get free stuff that you don't really need.

I'm happy for your home party fun, but please leave me out. My feelings won't be hurt if I found out what an excellent time you had without me. In fact, you inviting me, makes me uncomfortable. It makes me wonder if you know me or what my life is all about right now.

When I do feel like loosening up my purse strings, I'll head down to the Christmastree Shop and drop $2.00 for a really nice smelling candle. I'll have to pass on the $30 one right now.

Another thing, I promise I won't invite you to my home party, because I don't inflict them on my loved ones. I repented of that years ago.

Tomorrow, we will return to our regularly scheduled cheery blog.

Actually, this post fits in nicely with Thrifty Thursday. I may just repost it.

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Tiffany said...

Stopping in from PYHO, actually I followed Shell's retweet. I usually do my own PYHO but this week I did not need venting.
Anyways, I could not agree more. I find it so rude that people just invite you so they can get free stuff, especially if they know your current financial situation.

Better yet, how about the friend who invites you to their kids birthday party who hasn't talked to you via phone, email, FB or text in over 2 months. Uh huh. Talk about a cheap shot to the gut. ( or wallet) I love your blog btw, I'm going to stick around for awhile. :)

Shell said...

I made it a point to let people know that I do not go to any home parties. At all. B/c I do not want/need what they have and I do not have the money for them.

I could go if it was just to hang out, but that's not the point for them.

The worst is when I say no and then get an email saying well, you can still buy through this link. Really? Buy something I don't need and don't even get to spend time with them. No thanks.

I get that a lot of people have home parties like this. I think they need to think about who they invite, though. Your friends are that- your friends, not people who should feel obligated to buy things.

Hit a nerve with this one, obviously. LOL

Lori Watson said...


I actually like these parties and have always gone with the old adage that it's better to offend by inviting someone to something than offend by leaving them out. I figure they'll say no if they don't want to go and that's that. Never thought the invite itself to be offensive and never expect people to buy things if they come unless they find something they want.

I haven't had one in forever but my daughter just had a jewelry party in order to earn her bridal party gifts through sales, which she did. It was a great help to her and no one seemed put out. Now I'm second guessing if someone may have been offended by the invite, but ya know what? I'm gonna pour it out myself and go back to my old adage of it's usually better to offend by inviting... :-)

Sorry to hear you guys are going through a rough time. I haven't seen you in a few months and didn't know. Glad I didn't invite you to any overpriced parties. ;-) On a serious note, I will be praying for you a little more specifically now. Love and hugs!

ssmurray5 said...

Thanks for pouring your heart out over this topic. I think you have spoken up for many of us.

Leighann said...

I couldn't agree more. So many times I've had to turn down invites and felt guilty but I don't have $75 for a bracelet.
Great post.

Kimberly said...

I don't go to these either. Don't let parasitic "Frenemies" get to you! Anyone who cares about you will understand. Anyone who doesn't, wasn't your friend anyways...

Renegades said...

Home parties are just a way for one person to get some free stuff or something half off.