Tuesday, August 3, 2010

A Rare Moment or Two

I have had a little alone time this week. Paperboy is at camp, Random is working and the Gman has taken Little Guy with him in the mornings. So what's a Mom to do? Sleep a little extra, read the Bible, and waste time catch up on some news.

When we made the decision to school our children at home, this 'alone time factor' was not really on the radar screen. I became a woman with a mission. My time wasn't as important. That was then, this is now.

Luke 14:28-30

For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it--  lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, 'This man began to build and was not able to finish.'

When prospective homeschooling mothers approach me about schooling their angels at home, this is the first thing I bring up. I send out my Warning! "Gone are the ladies lunches, spotless homes, health club memberships, and shopping trips."  I say this because, you may be able to continue in these things, but it will not be easy. 
*disclaimer...I never had a spotless home, but I did dabble in club memberships, I found wholesale shopping clubs, much less strenuous than health clubs*...

I did not count the cost in the beginning. I didn't have a large support system at the time. My in-laws and most of my family lived at least a long car ride away. My friends were sending their kids off to school.  I had a few buddies that I could drop my kids off with, but they dwindled as they moved away. I am not saying this to complain. God used this time in my life to really get to know my children. My walk with God became stronger and my resolve to know God's word was sealed. It was the best thing for me, at that season of my life. I eventually met other home school families and formed new friendships. When my mother was dying, I was blessed with many friends to help with my kids for the numerous appointments. My kids have grown older and need me less.

I think about my early struggles as a new home school Mom:

Try Christmas shopping with two young boys and a baby with you. Even if you are not buying for them, you cannot be guaranteed, they will not brag about the awesome gift you bought for so and so. You can't even concentrate on what you are buying. Do you really want your 8 year-old to spend his best working time in a Bible study nursery with a bunch of babies? Ladies lunches are not the same with the presence of children.  A trip to the grocery store, can become enough challenge, who needs to drag kids out looking for that perfect dress? When you and the gang are home all day, schoolwork ends up all over the house. A clean house is the goal, but not often met. Are these things really important to you? To me some are necessary, but not the most important. My never ending search for a babysitter, just to go to the dentist. Thankfully, my husband had a little flexibilty to come home early at times.

Now, when I need to get out alone, I just go out at night, without the kids. Dad can stay home with them. This is fine, but I have to be careful. Some days, Dad has worked all day in a sweaty crawl space fighting bugs and rodent dung to put wires in then peffect spot. He wants to come home, shower off and chill. Yes, he needs to do that. He may not be excited about the sale, I have to get to.

My alone time must be stolen or it will not be there. My other solutions to this. During the school year, I wake up before everyone else. Sometimes, I let my teens sleep in. Insist the boys go out and play. I get out a few nights out of the month. We go on a date once in a while. Generally, I find myself in the company of 3-6 guys and I am quite comfortable with that.

How about you? Do you get any alone time, besides the shower? I'd love to hear how other home schooling Moms get time alone, or if you even need it.

I welcome reader comments with open arms. I also understand if you aren't the commenting or hugging type of person, you can drop me an email at accidentallyhomeschooling@gmail.com.


Theresa said...

I am here from the Hip Homeschool Hop!

I struggle with the same things. Fortunately, my husband is great about watching the kids on the weekend so I can run errands OR taking them out hiking or to the Swim Club so I can read my own books in peace :)

Shell said...

Is it bad that right now, I'm looking forward to sending two of my boys off to school in a few weeks so that I can get some alone time?

Glad you are able to sneak in some alone time!

Anonymous said...

Homeschool moms have to be so intentional about making time for themselves. As of right now, my primary "alone" time consists of my son putting on ear phones while he's playing on the computer. - LOL

Thanks so much for joining the Hip Homeshcool Hop today!

The Homeschool Chick

Kimarie @ The Cardamom's Pod said...

Hi there, stopping by from the Hip Homeschool Hop! This is a great post - I know what you mean about getting some alone time now and then. For me, a trip to the grocery store alone is amazingly recharging. If I can't get away, I go in my room and shut the door and just lie on the bed for a bit. My 9 kids are 15-3, so I'm sometimes able to do another alone time break that I'm doing right now - computer time! ;-)